
I think it’s important to make clear something before we go on: I do not ship Shamy. In fact, for the majority of her run on the Big Bang Theory, I did not even particularly like Amy. Heck, let’s not pussyfoot about this… I hate Amy.
Hate her to my very bones.
So, if you were hoping this was going to descend into me waxing lyrical about Amy Farah Fowler, and how she saved the show or was the only one able to truly love Sheldon Cooper you are going to be disappointed . She’s not, Sheldon had love in his life before Amy. It wasn’t romantic in nature but it was love. He had friends and family who cared about him deeply. And the notion continually spouted that Amy is his one chance at romantic love because she’s so great, or she’s the only one willing to put up with his nonsense, or the only one who would ever be interested in him because he’s just that crazy, is factually untrue.
And I say that in what ever universe we’re speaking of.
But the sad thing is that when she first appeared I didn’t hate Amy at all. I liked her. I enjoyed her actress’ deadpanned delivery. And I found her relationship with Sheldon, even if neither of them were willing to identify it as such, to be sweet in its odd little way. They seemed to genuinely enjoy each other’s company and were able to understand each other more than anyone else in the world.
Probably because they were just so much alike.
But that was the problem.
She was too much like Sheldon.
And when the writers decided she was going to be a permeant fixture of the group… well they couldn’t have that. They already had Sheldon Cooper they didn’t need another one. But that left the question… who was Amy Farah Fowler?
They took some time deciding this.
In fact, an argument could be made that they never really landed on a final character. Instead, Amy fluctuated violently between several different personalities. And even her personal history seemed to vary, somewhat, between each personality. But I’m getting ahead of myself. So let’s take a step back, take a deep breath in to calm down, and meet the Amys.
Amy the First: The Smart Cookie

It was clear from the very first time we saw her on our screens that Amy, this Amy, was a character made to resemble Sheldon Cooper greatly. She spoke like him, she held the same stiff and awkward mannerisms, she even referred to the act of making love as Coitus. And yet, despite that, even as far back as her second appearance we can observe some initial differences.
For one thing Amy is not a Physicist… she’s a Biologist. Already far more interested in the physical world than Sheldon. A man who once confessed that he would like nothing more than to become a brain in a jar.
She’s interested in the social dynamics of the group enough to conduct social experiments on them; such as the false gossip she helps Sheldon spread around. Her comments may have a similar socially awkward ring to them, like Sheldon, but it’s clear when we look closer that it’s not because she can’t navigate social relationships. Until Sheldon she simply chose not to unless it would benefit her work.
And sometimes it did.
Does a woman who can attract the attention, funding, and subsequent marriage proposal of a Saudi Arabian Prince sound anything like the sad loner later episodes try to paint pre-Sheldon Amy as?
No.
Because it isn’t.
Who ever that Amy is she lives in a completely different world to the Amy of season four.
Amy the Second: A Highschooler reborn

As the writers of The Big Bang Theory continued on their journey to discover who exactly Amy was, and how exactly she fit into the dynamics of the wider group, they stumbled into our second variation of Amy.
This Amy just wants to be accepted.
To have friends.
To have Love.
To have, in fact, everything that was denied to her during her first High-school experience. She’d really like a second one please. And when she makes friends with Penny and later Bernadette it seems like all her dreams are coming true. Finally, she has the popular girl as her Bestie, along with her cute in the right light friend tagging along as their third wheel. She has a boyfriend. She has a social circle. She has it all.
Who cares what anyone else might say on the matter.
Who cares that when Amy first declared them ‘besties’ Penny didn’t even like her.
Or that Sheldon would really like their relationship to stay ‘of the mind’.
And who cares what Bernadette might feel about being called ‘cute-in-the-right-light’. Or ‘lucky’ that Penny and Amy even hang out with her. Or if she would have preferred to have a maid of honour who didn’t try to make Bernadette’s wedding all about herself. To the point of planning to have her own music when she walked down the isle. Wow. When you really think on it this version of Amy was a bitch to Bernadette.
Yep, who cares about anyone else or what they might feel on the matter. Because this Amy had a sad, friendless, background and so doesn’t she deserve nice things?
Yes, she does.
Or at least that’s the story she’ll spin to you.
Amy the Third: The Other One

Ultimately even the most jerky characterisation has to find something to settle on. I would like you to meet the third Amy… she is there. Yes, while as uncomfortable as the other Amys sometimes were you could at least say that they had a personality.
They had passions.
They had wants.
They had desires.
And most importantly for a character on a comedy show… they were funny.
This Amy is not.
Mainly because this Amy was turned into the straight man for everyone else’s wacky personalities to bounce off of. But not like a proper ‘straight man’ who actually has to have some comedic timing of his own to keep up with his comedy partner. Oh no, this Amy is as if they snatched the most boring person from our world, deposited her straight into the middle of this comedy, and just expected us to root for her.
They did try to give her some jokes after she married Sheldon. But seeing how most of them were just copied from previous lines of Bernadette and Howard they fell flat. And had the added effect that they made her seem like she hated her own husband.
That’s right… you heard me.
This Amy hated Sheldon.
While there can be no doubt that Amy one and two loved Sheldon deeply, even if they didn’t always respect his boundaries, Amy Three simply didn’t. I’m sure there are many of you out there feeling offended at this notion but I will stand fast by my claim.
This Amy did not love Sheldon.
If anything she hated him.
But that made sense because this Amy wasn’t made to love Sheldon… she was made to lecture him. She was the ‘voice of reason’ to his ‘actually interesting character’; this Amy’s purpose was to point out to Sheldon when he’d gone too far. This is why she talked to him as if he was a small, rather stupid, child up to the point of explaining ‘empathy’ to an adult man who is a literal genius and telling him it’s something he could really work on. Sheldon Cooper knows what empathy is Amy, you condescending cow, and when you actually watch the entire show it’s clear that he actually doesn’t have a true problem with feeling it himself.
What he has a problem with is recognising when other people need it.
It’s recognising and understanding the emotions of others even when they’re not being completely honest about them. And sorry Amy that’s not an Empathy problem that’s a ‘Theory of Mind’ problem.
If we’re being honest the person with an ‘empathy problem’ is Amy. She’s so busy being ‘morally superior’ to everyone in her life that she honestly treats people worse than Sheldon who, remember, in story, is actually meant to treat people badly.
She belittles Penny for her intelligence; she talks down to Bernadette for her career or her interest in her own bloody children. She barely acknowledges Raj. Her interest in Howard wavers depending on the storyline – for instance while they bond over their shared love of Neil Dimond in one episode in another they’ve apparently not hung out alone together in years and Amy finds it weird to do so now – the only person this version of Amy seems to consistently like is Leonard.
Something that the earlier Amys would never have done.
But, for my argument at least, that makes sense, because this is not the same Amy. This is not the same Amy that found Leonard tedious when she first met him; this is not the same Amy who just didn’t get her motor running by Leonard. This is the Amy who is so busy lecturing Sheldon on how hurt Leonard is on his contribution to their paper being overlooked by Scientific America that she implies Sheldon’s contribution was lesser. Despite the fact that he wrote it and worked out all the math while Leonard… had a lucky hunch.
This woman doesn’t love Sheldon Cooper… she tolerates him.
She even basically admits as much in the final episode. All right so that’s a tad over dramatic but still…this Amy is the worst of all Amys. And what Sheldon should have done once he was finished his very sweet speech to his friends, you know the people that had gotten over themselves and decided to come and support Sheldon because they actually loved him, was turn to Amy and say…
“And to you my wife, my work partner, for who’s insights I will always be grateful for, I think I’m ready to let you go. Amy, I want a divorce.”
But alas that was a world that we were never allowed to see.
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